Seriously, Where Are The Friends?

If you feel that friends should be the ones to help you and talk about your problems first before you reciprocate, you might have a problem with selfishness. Selfish behavior makes people shy away from having a relationship with you because friendship should be reciprocal.
While it isn't always a perfectly divided give and take, you should have a natural desire to be supportive and help your friends. This also means that you should make the effort to call them, nurture the friendship, keep up with what's going on in their lives, and in general, be interested in their well-being.